Day of being in the red?
Day of making single people feel even more single?
Day of roses-cost-a-lot-more-than-usual?
Day of awkwardly testing every new couple’s expectations?
It is the worst day to eat dinner of the entire year. I can’t tell you how exhausting it was to serve couples who clearly felt forced to go out, and to pretend to be as excited as them for your third engagement of the night. (Don’t do it!) Not only has everyone already thought of this event, but the food and wait times are horrific. It’s not so romantic when you’re hangry at each other. (hungry+angry. It’s a beloved word in my vocab)
Flowers are far more special on any other day, as an actual surprise. You know, when you want to make them feel special on a special day. Don’t pick V-Day. Pick the day she forgot about that you remembered. Or drop off one flower everyday for a week, for no reason at all. THAT is romantic.
Cards now cost on average $5 and how many end up recycled? Right, all of them. Get some cool paper, glue and bedazzle her card like it’s 1999. Steal your kid’s Frozen stickers. Whatever you do, be sure you not buying some lame card the industry CREATED to make more card sales after Christmas. (Look it up, total scam)
The pressure to make the special day more special than everyone else’s is ridiculous. Self-check what love it really about before you go wild trying to impress someone on the 14th. Impress her with things that really matter – like cleaning the entire kitchen AND a back massage. Yes. (Can someone tag my husband???)
Jewelry is increasing the average spend per person above Mother’s Day and Halloween spending. Over $500 means some people are all out buying thousands of dollars of rings and necklaces. Get a simple chain and put an existing ring on it. Better yet: get her some Gold stock – now THAT is innovative and fantastic to get your money back out of if things don’t “pan” out.
The Not-So-Insane Truth
Don’t look at what anyone else does and keep that day true to your own relationship and your money situation. Back away from the red hearts and sale signs.
If you are in, buy something of value, or at least re-usable (new kitchen appliance anyone? Lingerie for the lovers? A good book!)
If you want to do something special, try making dinner or taking friends out for a nice coffee date. Include the single people that day. Spend time together.
Use WORDS this V-day instead of THINGS. (Bonus – find out their love language to really make it fit perfectly)
Don’t be afraid to be the sole couple standing. We need to stop the Valentine’s madness and get back to having fun on your own terms. Wall climbing anyone? A hike on the weekend? Couples yoga date. Or nothing at all. #loveallyearlong
If you want to scream “I have no unique romantic bone in my body…”
Then quickly book your table at the last reso in the city, and you’ll find the tacky red-ribboned chocolate boxes at the front of the store. If they are sold out, upgrade to the nearest necklace that has real diamonds for 50% off twice the original price, and you’re set!
Can you feel me?
What do you think of V-day in your relationship???